When a parent has dementia, you will find that you often have to bend some rules when providing home care. If you try to do things without any leeway, it will be frustrating and stressful. Here are three areas where some give and take is often necessary.
Tastes Are Going to Change
One day, your mom loves her black yoga pants. A day later, she hates them. You have to rescue them from the trash. That’s one area where tastes will change. All you can do is go with the daily changes. She’ll have changed her mind again tomorrow.
Foods are another area where tastes change. Your mom hates beef one day and loves it the next. Her favorite vegetable used to be broccoli, but she argues that she’s never liked it. It happens. There’s not much you can do to stop it.
Lying is Sometimes Necessary
There’s no way around this one. Sometimes, you have to lie. It’s not that you’re lying to be mean. You have to lie in order to get things done.
One area where you’ll find yourself lying frequently is on appointment days. Your mom or dad may become impossible to manage when there is a dentist’s or doctor’s appointment. Your parent may run into the bathroom and lock the door. You may have to wrestle them into the car.
The easier way is to lie and say you’re going out to lunch. Don’t mention the appointment at all. Once your parent is in the car, drive to the medical or dental office. Once there, you can have a staff member help you get your mom or dad from the car.
Schedules Can Be Tricky to Maintain
You have to be ready to adjust your schedule as necessary. You’ve planned to take your mom home to see her sisters. The flight leaves in three hours. You’ve told your mom repeatedly about the trip and left her notes. The day arrives and she’s still sound asleep. You’re going to miss your flight.
If you’re planning something with a strict deadline, arrive early. Tell your mom you’re leaving an hour before you actually have to go. You’ll be able to get out of the house on time, even if there are unexpected delays.
Have a Caregiver Ready to Help
Consider hiring a caregiver to have your mom ready to go on time. Caregivers can help with housekeeping, meals, and help your parent stick to a schedule. Talk to a home care agency to learn more about the many ways caregivers can assist you and your parent after a diagnosis of dementia.
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