Two Different GenerationsWhen our older relatives get older, we want to believe they are living well and enjoying their retirement years. It can be easy to overlook the signs that things may not be as good as we’d like for them. In addition, some older adults will hide their problems from their younger relatives because they don’t want to be a burden or because they fear looking incapable. When you live near the person, you may be able to see that there is a problem. However, if you’re a long-distance caregiver, you may have to rely on phone conversations to know when they need help. Here are 4 questions that can help you determine if your aging relative needs help.

#1 What Did You Have for Dinner Last Night?

Many older adults struggle to eat healthy meals. It can be due to financial difficulties, because they simply don’t enjoy cooking and eating alone, or because they have a medical condition that makes cooking difficult. Or, they may be having trouble driving, so they are unable to get to the grocery store. Asking about what they had for dinner could help you to determine if they are meeting their nutritional needs. You may need to ask the question frequently because everyone it’s normal for everyone to grab something quick once in a while or to eat a meal that isn’t very healthy.

#2 Have You Seen Your Friends Lately?

Seniors who live alone may become socially isolated because they have trouble getting out of the house. Not being able to get out can cause them to lose contact with their friends, leaving them feeling lonely. Asking about their friends can get them talking about whether they’ve been out of the house lately or if anyone has come to visit.

#3 Did You Try the New Laundry Detergent We Bought?

If you’ve purchased something for the older adult to try around the house, like a new detergent, broom, or other cleaning item, ask if they tried it and how it worked. This can lead to a conversation about whether they are having difficulty keeping up with housekeeping and laundry.

#4 Does Your Medication Need to Be Refilled?

Sometimes older adults forget to take their medications because of memory problems. Keep track of when you last helped them to refill their prescriptions and how long they should last. If the prescription is lasting longer than it should, they may be forgetting to take it.

If the answers you receive to these questions concern you, elder care can help. An elder care provider can come to the older adult’s house to check on them and help with what they need. Elder care providers can drive the senior to the grocery store and other places, like to see friends, if they are no longer able to drive. An elder care provider can also cook meals and do light housecleaning. And, if memory is an issue, elder care providers can remind your loved one to take their medications.



Tagged with →  

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *