Caregivers often find themselves feeling overwhelmed and worn out by the responsibilities of caregiving. They spend countless hours caring for a loved one, but still need to find time for work, children, friends, and personal time. Although they may sometimes wish for someone to help them shoulder some of the duties, many caregivers find it difficult to reach out to others and ask for the help they need. There can be several reasons a caregiver doesn’t ask for help. Maybe they don’t think anyone will step up to the task or they may feel like they should be able to handle everything on their own. But sometimes it’s just hard to ask for help because they don’t know how. If you’ve been hoping for some help, but haven’t worked up the courage to ask yet, here are some tips that may make it easier for you to get the help you need (and deserve!).
Start with a List
Make a list of all the things your job as a caregiver entails. Next, look through the list and think about which tasks you feel comfortable trusting to someone else. Alternatively, think in terms of blocks of time. If you could use an hour three times a week so that you can attend an exercise class, think about what kinds of care your loved one is likely to need at that time of the day. Now, consider family members and friends who might be willing to cover that block of time.
Be Specific in Your Conversations
When you do approach someone about help, be open about why you need help. Explain what is going on and how you feel about it. For example, you might say, “I spend so much time taking care of mom that I’ve hardly seen my own daughter lately. I’m worried that my daughter feels like I don’t care about her anymore.” Communicate exactly what it is that you need help with. Sometimes people are intimidated by the idea of being a caregiver because they don’t know what it entails. Remember that list of tasks you made? Use it to talk about the things that you would like help with.
Allow Ample Time for the Conversation
Chances are a conversation asking for help in caregiving won’t be a quick one. Plan to spend some time with the person you are approaching explaining the situation and where you need help. They’ll need some time to really think about how they can help and what they are willing to do. You may not even get an answer on that same day. In fact, it may not be a good idea to press for an answer since the person may agree to help, but later back out if they haven’t had time to think about how being a caregiver fits into their life.
Asking for help may not be easy, but it’s worthwhile. Every caregiver needs a break and should be allowed the time they need to take care of themselves, too. If your requests for help from family members and friends go unanswered, remember that there are other options out there. Hiring a professional in-home care provider through an agency can give you the support you need. A home care provider can come to your parent’s home for just a few hours or for an entire day, depending on your parent’s care needs.
SOMETIMES A LITTLE HELP AROUND THE HOUSE AND A REGULAR COMPANION CAN BRIGHTEN A SENIOR’S LIFE. IF YOU OR AN AGING LOVED-ONE ARE CONSIDERING IN-HOME CAREGIVERS IN PEORIA, AZ, CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT GOLDEN HEART SENIOR CARE. CALL TODAY (623) 748-3301.